This morning we dropped my sweetie’s brother off at the Oakland Airport for his return flight to Maryland. Tears were held back, hugs exchanged and regards to his wife were given. His visit of four days was his birthday present to his sister and we spent most of it sharing meals, seeing sights and talking about old times. They have a very loving and friendly relationship, obviously enjoy each other’s company and in general set a great example of sibling attachment.
My sweetie says it’s because she had asked for a little brother when she was only a little girl herself and her parents obliged her. Since his birth he has been “her” baby, which made for loving feelings, and since he began to speak and she discovered that they shared a love of words, language, general word-play, puns, crossword puzzles and grammar their relationship only deepened and flourished.
I am told that such close relationships between siblings almost six years apart are uncommon (if not downright rare) while examples of sibling rivalries abound. What my sweetie’s relationship to her brother demonstrates is the great value of a close kinship with a person who shares your history to a degree, your outlook, your gene pool and, importantly, your sense of humor. The two of them spent a lot of time reminiscing about their childhoods and filling each other in on the stories each knew from one angle only. They also laughed a lot and resurrected old jokes their parents used to tell.
All three of us are oldish and we all appreciate the value of friendships and relationships that promote positive feelings and the production of endorphins. At our ages hardly anything approaches the satisfaction of sharing a good meal, a few drinks and the sort of conversations that old friends have with one another
On the road to the Meaning Of Life there is a wide lane reserved for friends and relations who share affection and love for one another. Whatever else is of value to you will ultimately pale in comparison to the value of your loved ones. Let him, her, or them know how you feel.